They only approach if the risk seems low i.e. She has physical attraction, which means this: as long as she doesn’t do something horrific in his presence, like murder a fellow human being in cold blood, or tell him to “call me maybe” when they exchange numbers, he’s going to want to sleep with her.īut even with visual attraction, there’s no guarantee a guy will even approach in the first place. But though we can improve them it’s a big mistake to make looks our sole obsession.Įven if you put all this work into your looks and become the most radiant, sexy woman in the room and he’s totally into your type – all that does on it’s own is trigger a basic male response in his head: I would have sex with her. The beauty industry likes to make this seem like a labyrinth of complexity, but really it comes down to: working out regularly, eating well, taking care of our skin, grooming well, dressing to compliment our best assets, being fashionable and coordinated, having good posture and a warm smile. There are many things we can all do to improve our visual attraction. If you screw up the interview or turn out to be useless on the job (not a euphemism, promise!), then the résumé won’t help. It catches someone’s eye and distinguishes you from other people.
Initial attention is like having a great résumé for a job. Why Initial Attention Is Only The Beginning Just like rich and powerful guys will always get attention from a certain percentage of women.īut we have to see this for what it is: Initial attention. The problem with this conclusion though is that it confuses attention with attraction. Pretty women will always get attention from a certain percentage of guys. The male stereotype exists because it’s plain to see that attractive women can receive a ton of attention for their looks.Īnd here’s the false conclusion most people draw from this: Men just want a pretty face. They are seduced by money and power and will compromise on any other desired qualities if they can pin down a man who has both.īoth of these stereotypes exist for a reason. They will overlook any personality flaw in a woman if she has a pretty face and the body of a Victoria’s Secret model.įemale stereotype: Women are superficial. To begin with, let’s look at two common stereotypes about men and women. When we identify these categories we see what separates the woman who only gets attention for one night from the woman who is constantly batting away marriage proposals. Or maybe it is (in which case, sorry guys!). It’s no secret that men place women into categories. This is the key to getting guys to put you in the ‘Girlfriend Category’ and to have them chasing you for commitment. Today’s piece dispels the myth that looks are all that matters, and provides a comprehensive breakdown of what a High Value Woman is. Steve helped co-write the Get The Guy book and is a wealth of knowledge on dating and relationships.
This is the eleventh piece to be published on the Get The Guy blog from my brother Stephen.